Discover The Truth About The Effects of Social Isolation
Learn a few common misperceptions about social isolation’s effect on older adults.
Would you recognize the signs of social isolation?
People tend to assume that social isolation is simply a moment of loneliness and that it’s easy to prevent or spot when it begins to occur. That isn’t true. Social isolation can be gradual, and it can take years for you (or someone else) to notice it.
Isolation may look like any of the following:
“Mom is busy taking care of dad, but they keep each other company, right?”
“On my fixed income, I can’t afford to meet my friends for the weekly lunches I really miss.”
“My friend has canceled our plans to go out a few times. Why?”
Social Isolation: Definition and Consequences
Social isolation is the result of feeling detached physically or psychologically or being disconnected from friends and family — and it has reached epidemic proportions among older and midlife adults.
Well before the pandemic, a 2019 University of Michigan-AARP poll reported 1 in 3 adults said they lack regular companionship, and 1 in 4 said they feel isolated from other people at least some of the time.
The impact is devastating and can even be deadly. Social isolation puts its sufferers at higher risk for heart disease, stroke, dementia, and hypertension.
The emotional toll can be equally harmful. People often feel misunderstood by their friends and family, whose misperceptions about their loved ones can make the effect of social isolation even worse.
Assumption vs. Reality: Overcome Misperceptions and Reconnect
The assumptions we make about others in our lives are often at odds with the realities of social isolation. It’s important that we not only recognize the differences but also help each other feel more connected and supported.
Assumption:
A friend or family member who is the primary caregiver for their ailing parent or spouse is always around that person. They can’t possibly be lonely.
Reality:
Caregivers are some of the most isolated midlife and older adults, particularly when the person being cared for has dementia. In these scenarios, the caregiver is grappling with feelings of grief and loss while tending to their loved one’s around-the-clock needs.
How you can help:
Something as simple as a text, email, call, or handwritten card to acknowledge a birthday or anniversary can remind a caregiver that they haven’t been forgotten. These gift ideas are other meaningful ways to show compassion. Being sensitive to a caregiver’s struggles is key, and these tips on what to say and not say can bridge the isolation gap.
Assumption:
A friend who keeps turning down invitations to the weekly lunches or other activities you both used to enjoy must not want to spend time with you.
Reality:
According to the National Council on Aging, more than 17 million U.S. adults over 65 are economically insecure. Many retirees on fixed incomes no longer have discretionary income to spend on social activities, which can fuel loneliness and isolation.
How you can help:
Consider organizing a potluck so that everyone can contribute within their means. Suggest participating in a free or low-cost program at a public library, like a book club or meet-the-author event, and plan other activities that don’t have a cost attached.
Assumption:
A family member who no longer attends family functions or answers calls must be upset with their loved ones.
Reality:
- Missing Events: As we get older, many of us have more difficulty getting around. They may be limiting their driving, especially after dark or when new locations are involved. Not wanting to be a burden, they can be reluctant to ask for a ride.
- Answers Calls: Hearing loss is more widespread than diabetes or cancer and can make it difficult to understand other people, both on the phone and in person. Some people experiencing hearing loss may feel embarrassed and frustrated, leading them to withdraw from social settings. Without these once-enjoyed activities, people feel less connected to their loved ones.
How you can help:
Offer to drive or suggest meeting for breakfast or lunch instead of dinner.
AARP’s hearing center is filled with resources, including information on free annual screenings and tips on saving money on hearing aids.
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